mama needs a date night

Photography Newsletter

May 5, 2015

Denver Newborn Photographer
Being a mom is hard. Right ladies? Can I get an Amen?
I’m constantly beating myself up about …. well, everything.
Was the lunch I threw together and sent him off with this morning healthy enough? Could I have explained the answer to the question he asked 302 times yesterday differently to avoid the meltdown we both had? Do we spend enough 1:1 quality time together? Is he watching too much TV or iPad?
In general, “how can I do this job better” is the main topic of conversation I have with myself daily.
Sometimes I just need a break (and a shower) … along with an adult conversation over a good meal at a non-kiddo-friendly establishment.
A good friend of mine recently gave me this advice,

“the best thing you can do for your children is to have a healthy marriage/relationship … even if it means spending a little less time with the kids”

Date nights are really important to us, however often get forgotten or postponed (and never rescheduled).
It feels like a lot of work to find a sitter, choose a night, make a reservation, shower, do my makeup (!!), stay awake, and actually leave the house … (dun, dun, dun) without the little man.
But I think part of the answer to my “how could I do this mom thing better?” can be found in my friends advice.
Every mom deserves a date night!
So there it is ladies, I’m texting the sitter right now (mom, if you’re reading this, expect a text momentarily) 😉
Date night is going in the books for every other week starting this weekend.
And I strongly believe I’ll be a better mom (and wife) because of it.
… or maybe it’s just because I like the food better at the restaurants that aren’t kid-friendly 😉
xo,
Jenni
ps – if any of you have any other advice on how to be kinder to my mama-self, I would love to hear it in the comments below (or you can email me info@jennimaroney)
Date Night

  1. Erin Dawes says:

    At 50-something I still haven’t figured out how to change the tape in my head that says, you aren’t doing it right. But at least it’s a little harder to hear it now! 🙂
    I whole-heartedly agree with your friends’ advice. Having a strong marriage is the best gift you can give your children. And, though it doesn’t seem like it now, these years go by in a blink and it’ll be just the two of you again sooner than you think. so do put a premium on that wonderful relationship that got you here and will take you forward.
    Back in the day, I would try to bring lightness to a tense mommy situation by saying “you can tell it to Oprah one day”. Then Molly became a Psych doctor and I’ve made her promise to change our names if we ever show up in her studies! Really, we are all doing the best we can. Try to raise kids other people (babysitters, future teachers, etc) WANT to be around, and try to give yourself a break.
    Sending love,
    Erin Dawes

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